Do not give your address. Heres my story. Eventually I pushed it a bit because we had developed the relationship on the phone and I wasnt ok with ending it by text. Everyday. Thank you! We are supposed to meet, so will see if they follow through. You know this intellectually, right? He always texts me back though, so he doesnt leave me hanging and he also sometimes send the first text to start a conversation. Want more than friendship. We still wanted to meet in person and now that Ive thrown it out there he has not replied. Best to you. Minimal texts since NYE. I cant tell you how many times I sent a text or said something to this guy that didnt elicit the response I was hoping. Something like this. We have seen each other probably twice since that text reveal but still no real conversation afterwards. I asked him if he now stays a bit in town or if he has already packed for another trip And he replied after a while that he would indeed be going again for another 7 week trip in a couple of days. I started dating a friend of mine in early October and he was always scheduling dates way ahead of time and taking initiative. If all communication stops youll have your answer. I thought a guy that likes u, would call and would not want to wait a wk or 2 to see a girl he really liked and said he had a connection withand he told me he knew we were going to fall in love one day. Bp. Hi Lorraine. 6 months later, see him at cattle show, were polite, he sends a text later that day asking if I would like to get coffee sometime. Also I dont actually think this article pertains to all potential men or women. Sorry, but if he was in to this , he would be all over it. I am starting to like him and I am afraid I am falling for him. He hasnt offered to accept my request of a phone call. It may not be what you want to hear, but just move on, ok? Right now its probably the fantasy of him that youre really excited about. I was texting with this guy for a month. Or should I trust what he is saying? However I feel like hes not putting in effort with me, sometimes 2-3 weeks pass by and doesnt plan dates to see me, but decides to hang out with his friends instead. If youve read the article I think you know. He explaint himself with stress and he needs time to write me properly, but his head is stucked in stress. will make it awkward to end things. We were looking for someone to have fun with and have a companion. ukelad 1 yr. ago. 4 months is a long time with texting. Bp. We contimued to text and he texted me Good morning every morning but I felt something was off and always kind of pushed him and I was super scared. He told me he didnt mean to be rude. We have a time difference like about 8 hrs and knew each other for about only 2 weeks and had never met in person until now. Move on, ok? Texted a little Saturday but never heard back about today. Bp. He works Long hours I might see him 2 or 3 times in a month Hook up. Im curious about this, too. I am looking for a relationship, and would like to see if that could be a possibility for us. Hi. While doing this you leave too many variables open as in: Him pretending he's someone he's not. During all of that time we continued to text every day. Say something like, "I just want to make it clear that I value our friendship, and I'm not looking for anything romantic at this time.". Again, in person in front of a tour group and AGAIN in front of another tour group with a GIFT (something very thoughtful that only he knew about). Ive been texting this guy I met online since July. Enjoy!! Hi, I really like your post. Hi Bobby! why is this so much better than texting? Move on please. It is understandable that he may be afraid of making a false move. I hope you know that. I am confused. My advice is to get to an in-person date as soon as you can. We have spoken on the phone twice, but we both seem reluctant to do that again. I know he was somewhat inebriated when we were talking. Obviously never been married and has no kids to think like that. I want to give up so badly but the conversations full of flirty compliments and sexy comments has become addicting. A grownup man will take it seriously and respond. I find even at my age(57), its a constant and ongoing barrier to finding an adult male. Please Help! Hope you had the exception!! This is understandable, and Ive been there. I texted back with a time and didnt hear from him until 5 hours later which was around 9:30 and he asked if he was too late. Actually I have met a guy from online and were chatting for like 7 months. Maybe just a few hours, as I have to leave the business alone. if hes not or cant say what he wants, move on. Hi Char. Both agreed that it wouldnt be an issue if we had sex. Or if I do like him, how do I explain that I dont want to text pointlessly. I dont know what is behind that, and neither do you. He said he couldnt wait until I got back to meet me in person. I read some of your advice and really like what I read. (It isnt anything.) B Im not sure if hes actually been on a date with a woman since his wife passed and Im not sure thats a question I should ask.? I have asked him when he will come to visit me, and his response was when he can get a free date. Just like a first date irl who ends up not returning a call after you meet, it takes all kinds and recognizing when the feeling is not mutual is always key. We were fighting all the time and I wanted to get help and counseling and he refused. The next day he was asking my friend to give me his number and text him. Maybe he was nervous on the date. It only has been one day since it happened but is that normal? His last text was Friday. If you didn't make it abundantly clear then he is much more likely to disappear. I do not drive and will not travel to a place I have no way of getting to and from on my own. I want to say thank you for having these websites where I can come back and read. The key, as the experts say, is that if you're concerned go straight to the source and talk to them about how you are feeling. Hi Shane, You read the post, right? After a week of not hearing from him, I sent a msg that simply said I enjoyed hanging out with him and that its unfortunate things didnt work out. I removed my dating profile from the internet because I was getting very agitated by the constant texting of guys who never followed through with a date. I will gladly talk in person but phone calls are terrifying to me. So either hes not a grownup or not interested in a way you might want him to be. Ugh Im pretty sure Ive fallen victim to the serial texter. I really like this guy and he likes the same things as me. Heres a weird one. Hed get mad at me for some stupid reason. I met a man a month ago who lives in Colorado; l live in Florida. But anyway met a guy, im 34 and hes 41..we met the the site and he disappeared off my Tinder app after I gave him my number. The jerks will fall by the wayside. You nailed the problem there, ELJ: that false connection. my last time was I let him know that i was not selected for scholarship. Youre not even dating. He has a front line job but even with that mind we could meet but his excuse is he doesnt want to be 2m from me! Sounds like you are developing a nice relationship. His response was unbelievably appreciative and thoughtful, calling me Wonder Woman, Super Woman and a beautiful human. I am feeling a lot frustrated, with him, with her and the whole situation. I even said do you like me as you dont really text . If a mans not wanting to move at the same pace as youjust breathe. Hes a good man, true gentleman, great father and a businessman. We cook for each other, we go out in public, we sleep over and he kisses, cuddles and compliments me a lot. Then suddenly there was less and less conversation. We message and texted for a few weeks before going on our first date. He acts like theres chemistry and no dealbreakers discussed in all our texts. Hugs, Bp. Im not interested and Ive told him that. Youve had a few dates so you taking some initiative is far from off-limits. After that it seemed like he blocked me ! However, I dont agree with your cynical and non-trusting characterization of men. We still text non stop and enjoy each other but we made plans for the following week after our date and he said he was too tired and so exhausted and that he feels terrible. So I always initiated txting with him and were Christians so Im never flirty neither is he were both extremely kind to one another complement each other on our faith and encourage each other spiritually. If he is staying in touch and asking you out, go and get to know him a little. I tried to keep a bit conversation and the first days it was ok. But recently, his messages take very long to reply. We have a lot in common and talk about pretty much everything. He started being a bit flakey so the opportunity came to ask what was going on. He tried contacting me within the next 4 months but I ignored him as I started seeing someone else. We belly laughed the whole time, had a TON of stuff in common, great flowing conversation and we were both super attracted to each other. He called me amazing. Should I just calm down and wait for it to play out or move on? Do you think hes just not ready or is he seeing if Im still available to him. Hes shares very little about his dog. I am getting mix signals because at times i feel he cares for me but sometimes i feel he doesnt. We got to know each other through app. Your distance isnt that far so it should be so difficult. This went in for a week. You have a crush. Especially when he first stated talking to me and mentioned he had just had a baby. I know guys arent big texters, but I dont think its asking too much for a Good Morning text or ANYTHING before 7:30 in the evening. He has been getting more sexual on late night texts. I was in agreement and shared the sentiment. However, even at work he would text me. But, he continues to text me every day and calls me once or twice a week and when he calls, we are on the phne for 5 hours and he claims that this never happened to him before. He followed with I miss ya. I fumed and texted, the next day, well, you have my number haha. Is there a realistic way you two can actually go deeper and spend time together? You know what he says lol.ok goodnight. It sounds like you and this guy have a strong connection, and it's definitely worth pursuing. If you dont get a reply its either she isnt interested which on most grounds women are like that; shes busy with work or she has moved on from the date and onto another one. I literally consider it a deal breaker when any guy does that, because it means: Sounds like he doesnt like to text. I really like your page and the advice you give to others and I would also like to tell you my story. Now leave the ball in his court. We already know that we like eachother, I just dont know what to do about getting him to go dating again. What an awesome time I had with you! Very good advice. She went to NY met him for 5 days now shes moving to NJ for himI felt so played.wish I read your article sooner , Marie, unfortunately many of us have to learn these things the hard way. In person I recently asked him if hes dating other people, he genuinely seemed confused and said no. SOmetmes there can be good reasons a guy disappears. She really said it heretexting is not a datedont fall for itI do find it too impersonalYes! I should mention he has asked to meet up but I said no last-minute because I was hung up with assignments, I feel like its moving too fast. Tell her you like her and want to get to know her better. I have seen him 3 times in 4 months and we have plans to see each other 1-2 times over next 6 weeks (work trips etc.). Hugs. We got on so well togther id like to see him again but i also know he needs space for his family matter Anyway, I actually will use how a men texts and communicates as a screening tool. After that I didnt hear from him for several days until he began texting and asking questions to get to know me more. Hi Helenhmmmmaybe he was kidding. When a man is interested he lets you know. . If they arent showing up (for real) they arent really interested. This is just one guy who didnt know you at all. Grow up. He Likes Your Conversations and Wants to Be Friends With You 8. You dont know him. But at this point it has been over a month and he still texts instead if calling me, he asked if we could skype, and i agreed but let him know I was busy that day and i would let him know when I was available. Again, the texting seemed to last too long for me so I hinted for a date and he finally agreed. When we first met we never really dated because we were younger and he was so nervous. Of course we had to dissect this at work the next day, my female coworker saying that I should follow up this text with something enthusiastic and casual, and all of my guy buddies are saying no you let him know you had a good time, leave it at that and let him chase. I am a 51 yr old woman who wears my heart on my sleeve and definitely a work in progress and learned from my mistakes. I said sounds good. Well yes, if you are seeing each other regularly then I think it does have meaning. But my question is this? Im truly not sure if we will hit it off. However, I know that I want more. Ive also told him im not one to just jump into bed with people and hes still keen to be around. He shows great interest in getting to know me and tries to impress me with his little things (as guys normally do). step back from this and look at how you (mis)connected with this guy. Im a very realistic person, and I think if we havent met in person yet, we cant get to know eachother (like you mentioned), so I dont want to go in too deep over Skype because some subjects are better left in person. Im happy for you and Congratulate you for keeping so much together. If you cant do it for him, maybe you can do it for yourself. So we did for about 2 hours the time just got away. Finally, I had to initiate the meeting and decide what day and time because he said he didnt like planning dates/hang outs. Bp. My situation: so I been dating this guy for roughly 3 months now, we TEXT everyday morning and night, we been on couple of dates. Otherwise my eyes are too tired to text so have a good night. My thoughts are 1) your expectations of adequate response time may not be his; it does sound like he is responding and 2) that texting is no way to get to know each other. Bp, I met up with a guy through an online app and we hit it off pretty well. Not sure what to do here, as its very enjoyable both in person and on the phone to talk. Make it simple, and leave it there.